Why are We Talking about Free Birth Control?

Catchy title huh? yup. That was the point.

Don’t worry. I’m not going to rant about women having access to “free” birth control (well I might. but just briefly 😉 ). I want to address something that if implemented would make this whole discussion on “free” birth control void.

As a home schooled student, I did not have public school sex ed so I can not speak from first hand experience. However almost everyone I know went to public school and they had a variety of experiences. Everything from the teacher just pulling up google images of human genitals, while handing out condoms to actually explaining the biological act of sex and the names of the body parts  like a normal mature human being. Then the girls got the extra “time of the month” talk.

I was fortunate because in having my talk with my mom she actually explained what a period was and why I have one. I think my mom genuinely gave me all the information she had to give and thought I would need. However out of my normally 38 day cycle (yes 38 not 28) There were 33 days where I had no idea what was going on inside my body. Therefore I believed the lie that traditional birth control was my only option and that basically I could get pregnant at any time during my cycle.

I used birth control for about a year and it seriously was the worst thing ever. I’m not going to lecture about the pros and cons of hormonal birth control. I’m just mentioning that I was on it to establish that I have had to pay for my own birth control. It was 40 dollars a month and it sucked. Instead of being able to go out on a date regularly with my new husband, I was taking a pill that made me miserable, killed our sex life and ate up money.

Then I found it. I found a book that taught me about my body as a woman.

Ok in fairness I didn’t find it. One of my best friends was like “here this will solve your problems” as I was complaining to her about how terrible sex was and how depression was eating me. She saved me. ❤

I learned about fertility awareness and how my body worked as a woman. I learned for the first time that all of my female parts have names! I learned that my body has specific signs for when I am most likely to get pregnant. I learned how to pin point those specific days. What was really cool was that my husband noticed a difference in my willingness to be with him and it made our relationship better.

I’m not going to go into a lot of detail explaining the book I read. You can buy it here. I brought all that up to preface this statement.

If 12 year old girls were being taught how to be in charge of their fertility we would not be having a national argument about “free” birth control.

If mothers teach their daughters how their bodies work, we won’t need “free” birth control. If sex ed classes teach girls how their bodies work, we won’t need “free” birth control. Good Grief if our husbands/partners know how our bodies work we won’t need “free” birth control! If a 24 year old woman is out getting it on with a guy she met at the bar(or your married life is interrupted with some excitement), she can stop and think to herself: “Hmmm… Its day 22 of my cycle, my cervix is high, I haven’t had a temp shift and I have wet fluid. Better use a condom or maybe I will just pass tonight.” No hormonal pill needed, no implant in the uterus, no implant in the arm, no shot, no plan B pill and no murder (yes murder i.e. abortion). Just a womans own knowledge of her body and possibly a 50 cent condom.

That is true education. That is true empowerment. That is true FREE birth control.

(I know that BC is used to treat some medical conditions. That’s not what I am addressing here. I’m talking about BC only used for prevented pregnancy)

Ok here is my rant.

I’m not really into the whole “I’m a woman and I’m persecuted” thing. I work a mans job, I’m educated with a 4 year degree, I have 2 babies, I vote, I make more money then my husband and apparently now I can even join the boys scouts. (eyes roll). I don’t care if there isn’t a special breast feeding room for me to pump milk (yes I have pumped milk in a bathroom. For MONTHS) or an employer doesn’t want to subsidize my birth control. That’s fine with me. I will do it myself.

Let me tell you, women have lost their minds about the roll back of birth control coverage from health insurance.(That’s not even entirely accurate. Employers don’t have to pay extra for you to have coverage for free birth control when they are paying for your health insurance…)  I think my favorite headline I saw was something like “it just got more expensive to be a woman”… No. Just no. lol

It did not get more expensive for me to be a women. Any woman not on birth control is just fine. Therefore it got more expensive to be on birth control. (And it only got more expensive for some women to be on birth control!) It did not get more expensive to be a woman. A little logic lesson there. All the more reason to know your body and use that to gauge your sex life. That way truly no one else is intervening with your reproductive choices. If you know your body, no one is capable of controlling what you do with it.

It is not empowering to ask for special treatment because of being a woman. It is empowering to have a “disadvantage” and rise above it on your own. Especially in a way that doesn’t cost you in the long run and betters your understanding of your body. You want “free” BC? Take control of your body and learn how it functions.

Obviously I don’t have all the answers and anyone can say “what about this… or that…”And some of those this and that’s might be valid. I just think we as women could save or selves a lot of money and headache if we take control and teach our selves.









Dear SJWs, Silence does not Equal Hate (or violence, consent or whatever the signs say)

Guys… So much has happened. Last Saturday was awful, disgusting and inexcusable. Enough people have been talking, yelling and screaming about it to the point that I feel I don’t need to just repeat what the majority of the people in the country are saying.

I want to talk about something else. I want to talk about a false equivalency. I want to talk about a virtue signaling phrase that I have seen every where that is completely false and you don’t look cool or virtuous saying it. 

Apparently white silence (about whatever atrocity was committed that day) is equal to hatred. No. Just no. Hate was running around with tiki torches yelling “Jews will not replace us.” Hate was running around bashing people in the heads with bricks in the name of fighting Fascism. Hate ran a car into people and killed one. Hate has called for the genocide of white people. Hate believes in supremacy of one race. Hate disrupts peaceful free speech events with mace, bear spray, and clubs. Hate takes its place on opposing sides and screams until we think our country is ending.

My silence on your preferred social media platform is not hate.

My silence is confusion. My silence is anger. My silence is questioning. My silence is listening. My silence is me wondering how the heck I can make a difference. My silence is me recognizing that someone will still call me a Nazi and a racist  despite my listening, questioning, searching and having conversations with rational people. My silence is knowing that whatever I  say wont be enough for you unless I too become a warrior in the name of fighting whatever injustice you think we should protest today.

That isn’t hate.

I don’t have time to stand in the street and yell. I don’t have time to virtue signal on social media. I have kids to feed, bills to pay, laundry and a job.

(At this point some one reading this is screaming “You have white privilege!” Fine. Whatever. Every single person in this country is privileged because they live here. I will just say this and leave it. Don’t get into a “who is less privileged” fight with me. Most of you will lose.)

I will tell you what I do have time to do. I will tell you how I plan to make a difference.

I’m going to listen. I’m going to be kind. I’m going to love. I’m going to speak slowly and thoughtfully. I’m going to take you out for coffee and discuss big ideas and differences. I’m going to leave my echo chamber. I’m going to agree and empathize on injustices with you. I’m going to call you out on hypocrisies. I will never stop listening and I will never stop having important conversations.

And most importantly, I will teach my boys to do the same.

All that will be ever so much louder then your signs and social media posts.

Discussing life over a beer, with some one whom I have disagreements with, will make a much greater impact then you setting a trash can on fire.

(Here are some of the verses that I have been thinking about in writing this post)

Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.

James 1:19-20 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

Proverbs 18:13 To answer before listening– that is folly and shame.

Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

God bless and go love someone different then you. ❤

Dear Google, you can’t have it both ways

Guys, I love twitter. Every day after I look at cute baby pictures and status updates about how blessed someone was at a gas station, I say goodbye to facebook and go to twitter. On this social media platform I am greeted with “WE ARE ALL GOING TO DIE FROM SEXISM RACISM TRANSPHOBIA AND EVERY OTHER DIVERSITY PHOBIA” and “OMG EVERYTHING IS SO STUPID.”

Love it. :p

Ok so I will just get this out of the way now. Here is the ten page google manifesto that has blown up twitter. It is a quick read. You should definitely read it so you don’t develop an opinion based off what other are telling you about it. However I will give you a brief summary.

The letter was written by an employee to express his concerns about Googles diversity policies. He expressed how he did not think it was right that people were ushered into work for google to meet their diversity requirements instead of having a fair process for hire that applied to everyone. He expressed concerns that there were special support programs for basically all employees unless said employee was a white male. He also talked about how he is in favor of a diverse work environment specifically when it comes to men and women. He addressed some basic difference between men and women (all backed up with sources and graphs and charts) and offered suggestions as to how we can use these differences to include more women in scientific fields.

I’m an aircraft mechanic. I’m about as man as it gets. I work in an almost solely man dominated field. I also am I mom of 2 little boys.

I was not offended by anything this employee at google said. In fact I agreed with basically all of it.


I think my favorite is the NPR tweet. Seriously ladies? The guy didn’t even address the stereo type of women being overly emotional… you did it for him…BY CONFORMING TO THE STEREO TYPE. GAAAAHHHH Everything is stupid….

He didn’t say women were biologically unfit to work tech! He said women are different then men… Oh CNN… Oh Salon…

Ok actually I could rant about this for days but I won’t. I actually only have one point and its this. Diversity means different. (Really it means any person other then a white straight man but that’s another argument.) Wanting and celebrating diversity in the work place would mean celebrating differences between men and women in this particular situation. In order to celebrate diversity and in order for women to bring something special to a work environment THEY MUST BE DIFFERENT THEN MEN. If they are the same their is no diversity! Google cant yell “WOMEN ARE THE SAME AS MEN” out of one side of their mouth and “WE NEED GENDER DIVERSITY” out of the other. If they do that then they are insinuating that the only difference between men and women is reproductive organs. A difference and an assumptions they bulk against when it comes to the debate on Transgenders.

This is a logical inconsistency that needs to be addressed. Get it together Google. You can’t change arguments and “science” to fit your narrative. That’s called being a 2 year old. I know. I have one.

I heard the employee is suing you. As he should. I support him 100%. #expressyourunpopularopinion



An Open Letter to the Parents of Charlie Gard

Dear Chris and Connie,

I remember when I first read your story via a link on twitter. It has been maybe 2-3 months now. I remember the emotions that welled up inside my own heart as I read about your precious baby and his battle. I remember looking at my own boys. I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old. I saw my babies in the picture of your son. I cried. I cried so hard. From that moment my heart, my thoughts and prayers have been with you and your sweet little boy.

The phrase “I’m sorry” seems such a shallow thing to say to you both in this time of immense heart ache and pain. I could add a couple hundred “so”s in between  the “I’m” and the “sorry”. But somehow I feel that would make the phrase even less meaningful. So I will have to stick with I’m sorry.

I’m sorry your little boy was the 1 in a million to be diagnosed with this illness.

I’m sorry that for whatever the reason, the Dr’s in London were not able to treat him.

I’m sorry you had to watch your little boys health decline.

I’m sorry the courts and hospital would not let you leave even though you had raised your own funds to save your baby boy.

I’m sorry that it took the US congress so long to make you a US resident so we could have some power to bring you to New York.

I’m sorry that so much time was wasted in court proceedings and bureaucratic nonsense that your precious angel slipped into a state of hopelessness where there was no return.

I’m sorry that it doesn’t look like you will even be able to take your baby home with you to let him go in peace. But that he will be stuck in the hospital that held him a captive while there was hope.

But let me tell you… What I am the most sorry about… I am so sorry and so angry that your rights as the parents to your child were stripped from you by a bunch of damn suit and tie government bureaucrats that most likely went home to no kids or healthy kids every night. People biologically and emotionally removed from your child got to make the choice about the most important thing about him. His life.

As Charlie’s parents you had every right to do everything within your power to save his life. I would have done exactly what you did. And I would have fought like hell. Exactly like you did. I know that because of your story being known all over the world at this point lots of people will have their own opinions about what you should or should not have done. ANYONE who would side against your decisions for your baby is not worthy of second of your thoughts. Connie, no one criticizing your choices for your baby carried him for 9 months in their body or pushed him out during hard labor. Anyone that doesn’t 100% support you both in your choices  for your son and in the grief you are/ will be going through is not worthy of your time.

And for every jerk out there on social media that thinks they know how you should have lived your life, there are thousands that stand with you.

You are in my thoughts and prayers as you prepare to send your baby to the angels. He will be safe. He will be free. He will be in no more pain. He will be able to see and hear. He will run and jump. He will be watching over you from above. He will spend all eternity with Jesus and the angels. And he will know that his parents fought for his life until the end. He will love you forever.

I hope and pray you will continue in fighting for the rights of parents to love, protect and do whats best for their children. I know you are not the only parents that this kind of tragedy has happened to. The all knowing government courts and officials put you through hell on earth. So you give em hell right back. Charlies Army is behind you.

From one parent to another, with love, sympathy and a really big hug,

Kate ❤

I am not the Compassion Police

Ok Ladies and Gentlemen. I have done the work for you. We will refute the top health care myths (along with a stupid meme) that are circulating the facebook, twitter and news networks. We will do this using… (Get ready for it…) !!! H.R.1628!!! Don’t know what that is? Its the healthcare bill.

First of all I would just like to say that these people up there on the hill wearing their expensive suits, driving expensive cars and drinking expensive coffee were elected for us and buy us. I should not have to wade through lawyer jargon to figure out what you are doing with my money and my freedom. I’m a relatively intelligent person. I troubleshoot aircraft electrical systems people. But for the love of God release these bills that affect me in normal person speak. please. If you did that there probably would not be a need for this ranting post.

Here is the meme that has sparked my rant. I like to follow and listen to all kinds of people with whom I disagree (#Idontneedasafespace). It makes life more interesting and its way easier to have a civil discussion when you actually know the other persons argument. I don’t usually argue or engage much on social media posts. I just take in the information. But every once in a while an argument is so stupid that my brain cant take it and I have to call it out for what it is. BullSh*t.


I picked this meme apart in a comment on FaceBook but I think this meme encompasses the top myths being pushed to combat the new healthcare bill. I will address the whole stupid gospel and christian comparison later but for now we will focus on the whole poor and sick thing.


Myth #1 Preexisting conditions won’t be covered.

This is just a flat out lie and flies directly in the face of what Amendment #33 says. Allow me to quote the summary for you. “Health insurers would not be allowed to [deny coverage,] discriminate based on gender or [limit access based on] preexisting conditions.” There. Any questions? If you would still like to argue that point you may click on my link for Amendment#33 and then click the pdf of the 8 pages it took to say exactly what I quoted from the summary. Good luck.

Myth #2 Medicaid is getting cut.

Not exactly. Medicaid EXPANSIONS are getting cut. This is kinda hard to break down but Im going to do my best so hang with me. As it is right now able bodied working adults under the age of 65 can get medicaid if they make between 133% -400% of the poverty line. That means you could have a fully functioning, single 25 year old man making 40k a year on medicaid. That’s going away now.

As it is right now, medicaid has to provide coverage for children at 133% of the poverty line or below. Most states provide medicaid for children up to 400% of the poverty line but the requirement was 133%. That is changing to 100%. Medicaid must cover anyone under this threshold. States can still choose to cover higher.

“Essential benefits”(include ambulatory patient services, emergency services, hospitalization, maternity and newborn care, mental health and substance use disorder services, prescription drugs, rehabilitative services, laboratory services, preventative and wellness services, and pediatric services) are being eliminated as a requirement for all medicaid and private insurance. This is happening in a form of a waiver system which they will only be granted if they can prove the “waiver will reduce average premiums for patients, increase enrollment for residents, stabilize the state’s health insurance market, stabilize premiums for individuals living with preexisting conditions, or increase patients’ health care plan options.”  What this means is that if your state goes through with this waiver you don’t have to be covered for things you don’t need. Like I don’t need coverage for substance use disorder and my husband doesn’t need maternity coverage. Neither private insurance or medicaid has to cover that if they can prove that by not covering it they have made the market better as a whole.

Medicaid will also have spending caps. That means instead of having constant cash flow the program will be given its lump sum for the year and be told to chose wisely.

You can click here and here to read the actual bill amendments and summary where I am getting all this info from. Please don’t just take my word for it. We NEED an educated populace.

Myth #3 People will die!

This is just ridiculous. Sanders says “When you throw 23 million off of health insurance, people with cancer, people with health care, people with diabetes, thousands of people will die..” These numbers are from the Congressional Budget Offices analysis of the bill. They are wrong. They are off by about 13 million. About 10 million is the actual number 7 million of which would not lose coverage. They would drop their expensive plans because of the mandate being gone. That leaves 3 million losing coverage through medicaid. Not poor sick woman and children. People who don’t need it. Like the family of 4 making 100k a year. Its asinine to make the jump from “people above the poverty line won’t have medicaid” to “people will die”.

I want to spend just a little more time here. Lets say your a diabetic that is at 200% of the poverty level (for a family of 4 that’s about 40k a year.) You lose coverage through medicaid. Because preexisting conditions must be covered you will be able to find coverage through the market place if you can not get it through work. The bill has allocated about 15 billion dollars  for you to be able to have an affordable premiums and coverage. And there are still subsidies in place for sick, poor and old people. What does this mean? You probably are not going to die. Even if nothing works for you and your not insured from that 15 billion dollars being injected into the market place you have a safety net. Emergency rooms cant deny treatment. So if you are in a life or death situation with your diabetes you can go to the emergency room. Yes that will be a big bill but hospitals have financial assistance!!! In the state of Iowa, if you are below 400% of the poverty line you qualify for financial assistance and significantly reduced costs. And if your below 200% you can get out your bill completely. No citation here because this is personal experience and a conversation and the financial aid coordinator at the hospital where I delivered my son.

So your not going to die. These are scare tactics.

Myth #4 Planned Parenthood will be defunded!

Yea… for a year. That’s it.

Myth #5 Anyone who doesn’t like obamacare hates poor and sick people.

I want to spend sometime here as well. We will bring the meme back in from earlier. This whole idea is generally aimed at republicans for making the changes to the health care bill. The purpose of these changes are to cut spending and some of the regulations. The whole point is to try to make things more affordable. Republicans (in general) believe they can make things more affordable for everyone by cutting regulations and taxes. Democrats (in general) believe they can make things more affordable for the marginalized by taxing people with more money. Their favorite phrase is the top 1% (that is anyone who makes about 200k a year or more.) Democrats like to say that we must care about our fellow humans and a way to do that is redistributing wealth to those less fortunate. If anyone opposes this they hate poor and sick people. Just because someone opposes government mandated theft (which is what wealth redistribution is) does not mean they hate sick and poor people. This is just asinine. Both parties want people to have affordable health care. That’s why they stuck their hands into the bowl to begin with.  They have 2 different ideologies to achieve that goal. Both could work. Demonizing the other party that you don’t agree with accomplishes nothing.

Now the whole gospel and claiming Christianity thing… *sigh* I love the fact that the bible is used to virtue signal constantly and chances are people sharing their bible meme for political reasons have not opened their dusty NKJV bible in decades.

Yes! Christians are supposed to love the poor, sick and marginalized. Yes Christians are supposed to be kind, compassionate and generous with our money! Yes Christians are supposed to show Christs love to all! This is all over the New Testament and Old. NOWHERE does it say that Christians are supposed to force others to behave in a kind compassionate and loving way! NOWHERE does it say that we are supposed to purposely take money from others and give it away in the name of compassion! I am a Christian. I love my Savior Jesus Christ. I am in charge of my compassion, kindness and love. I am not in charge of forcing the guy down the street with the 2017 Audi to give more to charity or buy groceries for a single mom with 2 kids. I SHOULD DO THOSE THING IF I AM ABLE! Christians are not the compassion and kindness police. Therefore, to use this argument of kindness, gospel and Jesus to support theft (which is preached against in both testaments of scripture) is a complete misuse of Gods word. So just stop it.

My personal opinion is this health care bill is crap. I want government out of my health care completely. That’s not their job. But apparently alot of people want their congress person to dictate their health care so I guess that’s here to stay unfortunately.

Ok I’m done. Sorry for possibly destroying a narrative… Sorry for not agreeing with your Jesus argument… Please just please… think for your self. Read the information for your self before you jump on the meme bandwagon. Work together with people of different opinions. Question everything.


A Healthcare Story

I have been wanting to share my experience with our healthcare system for a long time. Frankly its a very long story so I have been putting it off…

I will probably split up my story over a couple posts each having a different focus. This post will focus on the fact that I have literally done it all….

Yes. I have been covered by parents, self pay, medicaid, sharing ministries, covered through work and attempted to get coverage through the market place (I chose to eat instead of buying through the marketplace. That’s where the self pay came in.)

When I was covered under my parents I had the Federal Employees Blue Cross Blue shield coverage. (Does anyone wonder why federal employees seem to have the best coverage in country… hmmm…) I never paid for anything. Literally everything was free (at least for me). Now obviously my Dad was paying a premium  but I had no clue what it was. All I knew was I went to urgent care for free, had birth control for free and honestly never once thought about health insurance or how I would receive medical care. Then I got pregnant.

This new arrival would not be covered under my Dads insurance. So I thought no big deal! I will just put the baby on my husbands insurance… haha… no. At the time my husband had insurance through work and a minuscule amount of money was taken out of his paycheck each month to cover his premium. If I added our kid to it, he would lose 2/3 of his pay check to health insurance. I was shocked. I didn’t understand why this was the case but obviously that was not an option. So… off I went to Obamas healthcare marketplace… Where I was told I could get affordable health insurance… oh boy…

I remember scrolling and scrolling through what seemed like hundreds of plans with different companies on my computer. Nothing was affordable. NOTHING. I would be paying close to 600 dollars a month in premiums with a 10,000 dollar deductible. I did not care that well visit were free. 600 dollars was almost HALF  of what my husband and I lived on a month. After months of searching I had found nothing we could afford for my son. I learned from a friend that apparently cash pay patients are a thing and so I called around to find a Dr. for my son that would accept cash. Best choice ever.

We found a Pediatrician that charged a flat rate for visits. 40 dollar well visit. 80 dollar sick visit and 10 dollars a vaccine. It was so easy and it saved us money. In the first 15 months of my oldest sons life we spent a total of  370 dollars for check ups, sick visits and vaccines. Compare that with 7,200 dollars in premiums with free well visits… no freaking thanks.

Now I realize that I got lucky as a self pay patient with my son because I never had to take him to the ER or anything like that. So as the time was drawing near to me getting kicked off my dads plan I started looking again. I started looking for our family this time because my husband lost his insurance after switching jobs. Needless to say its not like the market place had improved. We made too much money to qualify for any kind of discount on a policy and we didn’t make enough money to pay full price. Enter Sharing Ministry.

Out of desperation I stumbled upon the concept of sharing ministries. I talked to a few people at my church who used them and discovered that this would be my best option. This was also a fantastic choice. I got my Husband and son a catastrophic plan (40 bucks a month) and my self a maternity plan (150 bucks a month). The way it works is that we function as self pay patients for all medical services but the services that are covered under our plan we receive reimbursement after we have covered the amount we are responsible for (think deductable). Like for my pregnancy I was responsible for the first 500 dollars. Then I got reimbursed for all other expenses. This was working great for me with my second pregnancy. Then I moved half way through the pregnancy into Iowa. Enter Medicaid.

Every time I went to my Dr in Iowa I got a lecture on how I needed to be on medicaid under title 19. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I explained EVERY SINGLE TIME that I did not need medicaid. All I wanted was a self pay discount (yes that’s a thing even though most providers try to hide it) and the option to set up a payment plan. This all came to a screeching halt when I showed up for an ultrasound appointment at the hospital and the hospital demanded since I was self pay I had to pay up front for the services. I did not have 1,500 dollars on hand. Shocker. Through some emotional manipulation and needing the ultra sound to address a possibly serious complication for my sweet second baby I was pushed onto medicaid.  The good news was the rest of the pregnancy was free (to me. Not the tax payer.) But only up until my due date. After my due date I was on my own again. Now I still had my sharing plan so that was not a huge deal but for real? What kind of policy is that?

Ok so I do have something good to say about medicaid. In the state of Iowa its standard operating procedure for every child to have medicaid the first year. I actually think this is a great thing. It relieves the urgency and worry of trying to find health insurance and it can prevent absolute bankruptcy if your little bundle ends up in NICU. Its been a relief to me because if I didn’t have it for my 2nd baby I would still be functioning as self pay which means I would be shelling out 200 dollars every 2 months for check ups (Apparently its not 40 bucks everywhere >:[ )Not to mention if something actually went wrong.  200 dollars once a year for my toddler is one thing. Every 2 months is another.

I guess to some up this long monologue I have done or tried to do it all. Self pay is by far superior if its coupled with some kind of catastrophic plan with a sharing ministry. I have decided that I would rather pay 40 dollars a month for my kids to be covered in case they end up in the hospital with pneumonia and just pay for my own well visits. I need insurance against a broken leg or meningitis. Not the flu shot or a sports physical. But that can be the topic of my next healthcare rant.

Here are a few health sharing ministries you can check if your interested.CHM Liberty Samaritans. I use CHM and I know people who use the other 2.



Enough with the false “March against Muslims” narrative

Think of this as a public service announcement. Before anyone freaks out about what some are calling a “March against Muslims”, I’m here to tell you its not a thing. This is whats going on today. Across the country different cities are holding “Marches against Sharia.” If you think that is the same as marching against Muslims then you just defeated your own narrative of #notallmuslims.

These marches are being put on by the organization Act for America. The founder of this organization is Brigitte Gabriel who was a little girl in Lebanon during the extermination of Christians by Islam. She lived in a bomb shelter for 7 years because of radical Islam. You can watch her interview with Dave Rubin here. She tells about her life in Lebanon before and after Islam took over. You can visit her organizations website ACT! For America to learn more about who she is, what she does, what she believes in and the protests against Sharia Law going on today.

Now if you would like to make the argument that sharia doesn’t exist in the good ol USA…Let me correct you. FALSE. It does. There are Sharia courts here. There are honor killings. There is female genital mutilation here. But please don’t take my word for it. You can watch and listen to 2 woman raised in Islam explain it to you. Ayaan Hirsi Ali and Yasmine Mohammed.

So please before you freak out about what ANTIFA and Al-jazeera are saying about this march. Watch these interviews and go to the website of the organization putting on this march. Don’t lose your mind.

A march against sharia law should be something everyone can be on board with including all Muslims that are not extremists and radicalized. No Moderate Muslim should be offended by people not wanting to mutilate little girls genitals. If they are? Then they are not moderate and they are the reason that people are marching. As the twitter is saying (and I paraphrase) Muslims are being targeted by these marches. Yes. If your a Muslim that beats your wife for not wearing a hijab, you cut off your little girls clitoris, and kill your sister, brother, son or daughter for leaving the faith? Its a march against you. Sorry not sorry. Neither is this Ex Muslim woman.


Why the Notre Dame walk out was childish (most likely an unpopular opinion)

Well… I think its been about 5 months since I have updated anything here on my blog. I had a baby and that tends to take up some time… However he is now old enough to be slightly self entertained so I can go back to having some time to write! Hurray!

My facebook was bombarded yesterday with people liking articles about students of the  Notre Dame Class of 2017 walking out of there graduation ceremony due to Vice President Mike Pence being the speaker. My gut response went something like this… “Come the Hell on… My toddler walks out on me when I tell him he cant have cake.”

Now you might say that my toddler and these students can’t really be compared because these students are standing up for what they believe in and are being brave and my toddler just wants cake. No. They walked out because feelings. My toddler runs to his room (safe space) because feelings. I will break it down but first a story relative to this topic.

I have an older cousin that worked in Washington D.C. while Bill Clinton was president. She absolutely loathed the man. She ended up at some kind of event where the President was also attending and he was walking around shaking peoples hands and making small talk. My cousin tried to avoid him but ended up failing and he approached her to shake her hand. She shook his hand and chatted with him for a few minutes. Why? It was not because she was afraid to stand up for her beliefs. It was because she was a freaking grown woman and knew how to act like one. I remember her telling my mom this story after the fact and saying that even though she hated this man she had respect for the office that he held and his position of authority. He was the sitting President and she was not going to make her self look foolish.

I will not make the argument that these students didn’t have the right to get up and walk out. The did. That’s called free speech. (Something they have a habit of trying to stifle in others). They were not brave. Nothing was going to happen to them by walking out (or that one random student that just stood with their back turned see video here) except being booed by the crowd (which they should have been #freespeech). According to the all mighty internet god Google, the definition of brave is “ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage”. Not a description of these children. They walked out cause they could. They virtue signaled. Which by definition is virtuous so no one was going to punish them and they knew it. They were disrespectful to the Vice President because they disagree with him and stormed out because of it. Now enter my toddler.

He wants cake (or cookies,cheerios, icecream, the ipad, to watch tv… whatever he’s two). I say no because reasons. He disagrees. Loudly. He walks out. One might argue that he is brave because I may give him a consequence for not respecting his mom (I wouldn’t call him brave. I would call him two. But you get the point)

These students should have behaved like my cousin in the face of something that they disagreed with or offended them. Not like my toddler. To quote Calvin’s dad from Calvin and Hobbes “It builds character”  And that’s my opinion.

I would write more on this but gotta go. My husband is dancing to Justin Beiber with the Baby… Apparently I have been engaged in this post to long \\//

Can You See Both Sides?

I spend much of my time at work drowning my ears in podcasts. I like my mind to be busy while my hands are busy packing wheel bearings, inspecting control cables and changing engine components (that stuff gets boring after a while). I mostly listen to political shows, news, history and some entertainment thrown in there as well. Oddly enough, an entertainment podcast totally changed the way I look for and consume information. Particularly when it comes to news, politics and social issues.

The host of the podcast was talking about what we see in our Facebook newsfeed, twitter feeds, any kind of social media outlet. We see only what we want to see.

As we scroll through our newsfeed in the morning we “like” posts. Posts we agree with, posts that make us happy and all fuzzy inside, posts that make us laugh and post that dont offend us. Those likes affect what comes up on our page. I get suggested posts all the time from stuff that I liked or clicked on. Here is the point.

At some point in all our liking and blocking (yes I have blocked certain things from coming up on my page. Most people probably have.) we can drown out the opposite view point to where we are completely out of touch with others and their reality. We only see posts from people we agree with and what makes us feel comfortable in our already established opinion. There is no daily opposition to our view point and so therefore when we encounter it we cant handle it. We can’t imagine how in the world someone could hold a different opinion from our own. Its very easy. They liked different posts on there news feed, had different parents then you and have had different life experiences.

The podcasts host explained all this better then I think I just did but that’s my summary. It impacted my thinking and I did something about it. What? You may ask… Well I downloaded more podcasts and followed more people on twitter…

I followed Milo and The Young Turks. I followed Fox News and CNN. I subscribed to Ben Shapiro and Dave Rubin. I followed our President and our President elect. And let me tell you… I get so much conflicting information sometimes I question if anyone truly knows whats true and whats going on in our society.

So what I have decided is this. The information coming at me is divided up into information that has a little truth, some truth, a lot of truth and all truth. But I have to be able to make an educated choice on whats what. If your only getting information on one side of an issue its impossible to make an educated decision about whats true and whats not.

My point in this little rant is not to sway anyone to a specific mind set or ideology. Its to make the point that in order to think for our selves in an educated way we need to be exposed to different thoughts, mind sets, experiences and facts that we may not like. I do not agree 100% or even 75% percent with any of the people or news organizations I listed above. But I do know what they are talking about, what their opinion is and some even list their sources which I can double check for myself. I know I can confidently make a choice on what to believe and think since I have a pretty good grip on both sides of whatever issue might be at hand.

Its much better for two people to be able to have a discussion about social issues that goes something like “I can see where you are coming from and I know that (insert fact that they agree with and are bringing up) is a concern or positive but we should also take into consideration (insert other fact).” Then to have 2 people yelling left or right wing propaganda at each other from across the room when neither has no idea what the other is talking about much less where the information came from.

There are always 2 sides (or 3 or 10) and we need to know what the other side is in order to adequately discuss and solve problems.

Just stop it (opinion)

Today my Facebook news feed was filled with sorrowful posts consisting of basically “the country is doomed because Donald trump won.” Didn’t see much from the other side in terms of gloating (not to say its not happening and celebrating is different from gloating). From my news feed you would have thought aliens had elected Donald Trump because no American would actually vote for him. The fact is 59 million of us voted for him. So where are they all ? Where did they come from? I”m going to tell you (in my humble opinion) exactly where they came from.

My favorite post I came across this morning was a tweet and I quote “If you vote for trump today, make sure to explain to your lgbt+, female, black, latino/a, muslim friends why they don’t matter to you.” This literally made me LOL. The absurdness of this statement was so infuriating that it was hilarious. To all the groups named in that post, (trigger warning) it isn’t all about you.

Is it any wonder that there seemed to be Trump supporters hiding all over the nation? No one wants to be called a racist, islamiphobic or xenophobic. I would not be stupid enough to say that the groups mentioned above never experience any type of discrimination. However, I would place money on the fact that most people that voted for Trump are not any of these things. What are they?

Maybe they are people that want obamacare overturned cause it cost them 100s of dollars a month and they still don’t get good health care. Maybe its someone who has lost there job to illegal immigrants (it happens). Maybe its someone voting the republican platform cause they do not agree with abortion. Maybe its people who have seen the welfare system abused. Maybe its people who don’t think global warming is a thing. Whatever! There are MANY reasons why a person would have voted for Trump and it has NOTHING to do with there transgender co worker!

I went to the polls yesterday and voted what was important to me. What is important to me? Right now in my little family it happens to be jobs and healthcare. So I voted for what I thought was best. I did not have to come home and explain to my husband that he didn’t matter to me (he is an immigrant from South America).

I could have made a terrible mistake at the polls. Time will tell. But one thing is for sure. I am not a racist. I have no problem with the LGBT+ community. I happen to think Latino’s are pretty fantastic and I don’t think all Muslims want to blow up buildings. I would bet that most of the closet trump supporters are like me. Generally speaking kind, hardworking people who are tired of the system and wanted a change. It appeared that the change they wanted might come through Donald Trump. So they jumped in hoping for the best.

59 million people didn’t get up Tuesday morning to vote to hurt peoples feelings. They voted what they thought was best for their country. Now we can argue all freaking day long if it really is best. But stop telling people who voted differently from you that their racist. They aren’t and thats a baseless childish argument.