Guys… So much has happened. Last Saturday was awful, disgusting and inexcusable. Enough people have been talking, yelling and screaming about it to the point that I feel I don’t need to just repeat what the majority of the people in the country are saying.
I want to talk about something else. I want to talk about a false equivalency. I want to talk about a virtue signaling phrase that I have seen every where that is completely false and you don’t look cool or virtuous saying it.
Apparently white silence (about whatever atrocity was committed that day) is equal to hatred. No. Just no. Hate was running around with tiki torches yelling “Jews will not replace us.” Hate was running around bashing people in the heads with bricks in the name of fighting Fascism. Hate ran a car into people and killed one. Hate has called for the genocide of white people. Hate believes in supremacy of one race. Hate disrupts peaceful free speech events with mace, bear spray, and clubs. Hate takes its place on opposing sides and screams until we think our country is ending.
My silence on your preferred social media platform is not hate.
My silence is confusion. My silence is anger. My silence is questioning. My silence is listening. My silence is me wondering how the heck I can make a difference. My silence is me recognizing that someone will still call me a Nazi and a racist despite my listening, questioning, searching and having conversations with rational people. My silence is knowing that whatever I say wont be enough for you unless I too become a warrior in the name of fighting whatever injustice you think we should protest today.
That isn’t hate.
I don’t have time to stand in the street and yell. I don’t have time to virtue signal on social media. I have kids to feed, bills to pay, laundry and a job.
(At this point some one reading this is screaming “You have white privilege!” Fine. Whatever. Every single person in this country is privileged because they live here. I will just say this and leave it. Don’t get into a “who is less privileged” fight with me. Most of you will lose.)
I will tell you what I do have time to do. I will tell you how I plan to make a difference.
I’m going to listen. I’m going to be kind. I’m going to love. I’m going to speak slowly and thoughtfully. I’m going to take you out for coffee and discuss big ideas and differences. I’m going to leave my echo chamber. I’m going to agree and empathize on injustices with you. I’m going to call you out on hypocrisies. I will never stop listening and I will never stop having important conversations.
And most importantly, I will teach my boys to do the same.
All that will be ever so much louder then your signs and social media posts.
Discussing life over a beer, with some one whom I have disagreements with, will make a much greater impact then you setting a trash can on fire.
(Here are some of the verses that I have been thinking about in writing this post)
Ecclesiastes 7:9 Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
James 1:19-20 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.
Proverbs 18:13 To answer before listening– that is folly and shame.
Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
God bless and go love someone different then you. ❤